Day #1

In order to define love we have to first differentiate between what is normally called ‘love’ and true, conscious love; they couldn’t be more different. We all grow up in a society where it’s simply accepted that we will ‘fall in love’ with someone. But because most people are unaware of feel-think and how it works, they are unable to actually understand what this ‘love’ feeling really is or why it happens. It is impossible to estimate how much useless suffering could be avoided by a change in the way we view ‘falling in love'.

In his best-selling book “Conscious Neuroplastic Mediation: The Next Step in the Evolution of Human Consciousness” James LaFerla describes in detail how people grow up conditioned to have certain habitual feelings and then unconsciously find a partner that will satisfy their addiction. For example, a woman or man who was chronically anxious in their childhood will find someone to make them feel chronically anxious as a partner. The important thing to understand is that when someone selects another as a result of their childhood conditioning, and everyone does, it is not love. It is an extremely sad situation where a couple has unconsciously agreed to, not only continue their childhood drama, but continually intensify it as well. Only someone who has become aware of and mastered feel-think can ever be said to actually love another.

It is impossible to estimate how much useless suffering could be avoided by a change in the way we view ‘falling in love'.