Before I talk about my third and my last moment from my exercise, let me ask you something: do you have a sibling? Even if you don't have one, think as you have one.
Think about them. Think about their habits. Think about why they make you happy. Think about they make you sad. Or angry. Or excited. And now love them. Love them with all you have. Of course, you can say that the two of you don't get along so well, but you need to try. You have nothing to lose. Make them your friend. Because even if your parents won't be there anymore, they will. So support each other. Love each other. Take care of each other. Because this is what siblings are for.
At first, I didn't quite get along with my brother. I thought he was demanding and overprotective, to the point he could keep me locked up in the house. I knew it was out of love, but the fact that my freedom was threatened meant more at that time. Sometimes, in life, some things can make up not to see what is in front of you.
I think it was around the time of the death mentioned previously that I started to notice things. You may think I'm insensitive to say it, but I don't cry when someone dies. I just know that crying isn't going to bring them back. In exchange, I think about it for a long time and don't forget. That is the consideration you show to the deceased. He died 2 days before my brother's birthday. I was sad over heels thinking about how close they were and knowing how he reacts. So I decided to make him a present he, I hope, would cherish. I got us matching bracelets. So every time he sees it, he can think: I'm not alone. That was my first thought. But it was meant to help me the same way, as well.
You see, I think we got closer. And I hope we will get even closer. So my advice to anyone in this situation: speak. open up. don't expect them to read your thoughts because no one can do it. Leave behind any grudge, and love each other. Choose them over anybody. Friends, even lovers, come and go, but they stay for a lifetime.
My last happy moment is about you, my brother. The cold mornings filled with coffee scent and silence put me at ease and brightened my days. The three of us, half sleeping, in silence, only nature making the most noises. I think this is what they call harmony. I tried to enjoy these moments as much as possible, because, I know that one day, nothing will be the same. But, at least, we got closer. These mornings felt like heaven to me.
So this is for you, my brother. For you, who always cared for my well-being. Who put me first always. Who supported me and gave me advice. Who put down other things to help me. Who is proud of me without mentioning it to me. Who pulled me closer when I was pulling away. Who is willing to both live for me and die for me, just know that your little sister is willing to do the same without hesitation. Now it's my turn to make you happy. To support you. To put you first. I think you were my guardian angel in my past life, but, if possible, in the next one, I want to be yours. I'll stand by you, so please stand by me.
That was the end of my exercise. If you cried even once, that means you could understand my feelings. Now, don't be sad. We are all human beings and we make mistakes. We are supposed to make mistakes. Even more, we are supposed to believe in something. Believe in past lives. Believe in Grim Reapers. Believe in fairies. Believe in heaven. Believe in hell. Just believe. And something very important: every single one of us has its role in this world. Maybe you just don't see it yet. But you will. Trust your timing. It is always perfect. Everything happens for a reason, and souls meet for a reason.
Ready for a new exercise? It might be simpler than the last one. At night, go out and look up at the sky. See the stars. Think. Breathe that cold yet refreshing air. Let your thoughts flow. Think about the things you are grateful for. Remember them. And do one of those things for someone. Whether you are grateful because you have clothes to wear or something to eat, give someone one of those. Life means giving. If you give, you also receive. Don't think you have less. Humans are meant to be kind. And you don't know how you can make someone feel special. Just give things. They come back. When you die, you can't take them with you. For your closest ones, give them your attention, your advice, your care, and your love. Give anything you want to receive. And you will.
Coincidentally, this day marks my brother's birthday. I already wished him a happy birthday, but I'll do it again here. Happy birthday, oppa. Lots of love from your little sister.
"Your wound might be your fault, but your healing is your responsibility" is my motto. This book is the actual proof of a human being struggling to survive, striving to become the best version of himself. It is my own journey towards loving myself, with details and situations I've been through, and the lessons I've learned afterward, with some pieces of advice as well. Love yourself!
Book cover by @emoskydaddy (twitter)
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