A family is usually composed of multiple individuals, usually from ''the same blood'' but with physical and mental differences which are very obvious to the eye and should (at least) possess a certain understanding about each-other, a true harmony and a certain affection that is shown to each-other. Such however, is not the case in every family as there are times when one or the other uses a family as means of domination, aka imposing one's self on its own children that will, by the lack of their own understanding of the world, do the same bad thing that their parents did, or even worse, to cope with their own lack of whatever that parent put upon them with their own actions and to justify the pain that was held all its life, as the individual might, or might not think at a certain point in its lifetime that the suffering that they endured was not fair and thus seeking fair compensation wrongly.

As you can see, in the 21st century, families are a very misunderstood concept which we define as ambiguous as we define love, or at least the vast majority as there are exact definitions on this earth about how these things work, behave, and can be built in a harmonious way, without the need for tricks, money, or dominance. 

Usually the more common met ones are the ones with a very vague understanding of life, conditioned in a certain way that matches the old propgression of the world, and is usually at the end of its life, a very dominant, and aggressive type of family, which tends to usually put the youth into an unstopable vortex of repeating the same mistakes they did. Thus we can understand from this that, families as they are right now, have a very bad way of behavior, influencing the future of a country, and not only that, but also stopping the evolution that nature tries to impose naturally.  

In a family, as we defined above, there are multiple individuals, whose lives are different yet interconnected by either emotional bonds which are misunderstood or overexaggerated by other means imposed by too much comfort. But if one wishes for a family of any type, there are multiple ways to look at it, depending on the situation, and also depending on the perspective of one's own comfort circle. Thus a family can be composed of multiple friends, or in general a healthy relation towards other members of humanity, which make in total a family that is fulfilling the basic ways of normal behavior. Such cases are rare as not everyone possesses the right mind to understand that from the perspective of a child, an adult is looking a lot more threatening, especially if an emotional bond exists, and also from an adult perspective, a child can be (sadly) looking like a pet to that parent. 

Dismissing the ways of parenting which are totally not relative to individual but rather a very simple and common way of existing in life, with a normal mindset, which allows for that certain harmony to exist, the problems that can exist in a family are more often than not due to lack of understanding of each-other, culturally imposed by a certain country, or are a matter of selfish belief imposed from generation to generation as a toxic tradition.

We have plenty of examples which follow this category, as much as we have examples in the others presented above, yet the problem lies in the perspective of the parent and also of the child. To further make another example the most common met and yet very simple to observe perspective of a child in terms of how they view the parent-child situation is when they are at school and get scolded by someone who puts a certain emotional burden on them, usually that being the teacher, relating to grades as they would threaten to tell the parent. Now since it depends on how the situation is at home, some parents might be more or less forgiving in terms of grades, but the essence is that the child does not feel the need to learn out of fear, but rather develops a system in time through which it adapts, as every other animal does when in danger (adults included), that could change the child's perspective of life. 

As you can see, having a good environment is not about being more tough with your child or more defiant with your parent, it's more about a matter of understanding between the two parties involved in the family that make the environment. Essentially, a good family, is one which upkeeps an environment that can sustain the necessary knowledge for the growth of both the parent and the children that they have. Thus, without the necessary knowledge, all parties will end up as individual as they are, to part ways, and sometimes even end up in very cruel scenarios such as abusive environment, cases of suicide, or complete changes of beliefs as an act of defiance that is out of impulse and out of comfort. These being critical cases, of course, but the most common ones is where the child will choose to be independent in a very unhealthy way and since there's little to no knowledge of things, the consequences that could happen are either going to make it smarter, more wiser, or could make it repeat the same mistakes the parents had. 

Genetics play an important role for certain triggers however, and since anyone can be different at different stages of life, shows us that those genetics don't define us, but while we have them, all we can do is understand them and then become better so that there will be a fix to the issue. Now the whole blood-relative thing does not bind someone to someone else. Some people might find a family in friends or even pets, as I said before, and the fact that we search for the necessary affection during our lifetime shows exactly what was the problem to begin with. Essentially, having a family also means to live, and if one does not live properly, cannot expect a proper family life. And if one is to suffer through its familial environment, one should know that the suffering there, is an indicator of how not to be depending on the case. For example there are cases in which the parents are more dominant and the power in the house is balanced wrongly, thus giving birth to a toxic environment where one would be conditioned by lies and fear to live, and when met with a certain freedom or a certain resolve, they would rather not believe it as all their life has meant nothing up to that point and since they carry the sins of their parents, they would rather suffer till the end than acknowledge and cherish the fact that help finally came, and life can become anew even if it's too late. 

When managing a family, know that the one more mature should always have the last say but only and only if they possess the right understanding of things. Remember that out there will be always cruel people that would rather stay the way they are, than do what must be done. Thus only the more mature one can decide impartially if the decisions of the family are right to be taken or not. That applies to any sort of family, regardless of doctrine or belief as it is the only way to make a family united once again. If such thing is not to be met as a requirement, then any individual not belonging to the certain blood relatives to which they think they belong, they could by natural law, find another family that would show them the affection and care necessary for the optimal growth and no more than that. It is crucial that one should remember the balance of things, as one grows up, shouled never have it too easy nor too hard, one should always know that there is suffering and also joy. Moreover, should also know the difference between right, wrong, and how reality works. 

After all, a family is a group of people which can share an open mind, a friendly environment, can grow up with each other and can care for each other properly enough to not give up on a healthy lifestyle when faced with an unhealthy one. It falls upon the knowledge of common sense and the wisdom of action and life. If one looks at unusual rituals going around the house, whose origin comes from different aspects of reality which are not exactly defining it by natural law but rather by delusional thought, then one could always point it out and do something about it, or leave to find another family. In the end, if the child is not looked at as another individual on the making, then the approach should be changed as the perspective is a negative one and will not result in successful teaching of the upcoming generation. 

If familial bonds are to be kept intact, all till the end of days and further beyond, then I must inform you that the way things work are not as prescribed in other books. As not just one generation has to work on the issue, but all of them altogether, collectively, and genuinely as without the understanding and an emotional bond earned and not given out of nowhere as a justification of birth, there will be a breach at some point which will change the way that family works and understands itself altogether. 

Now you cannot change everyone's mind as each has different desires out of a family, and thus the situation yet again differs from person to person and how they see these things as experience is relative to individual, and you know you're in a good environment if someone cares for you, not just gives the impression that it does, just to keep you around and toy you another day. 

The rule of balance says that if one is to hold all the power in a household, the family is imbalanced and requires some attention when it comes to personal gain and who is or who isn't the problem. As you can see, there will be people that take responsibility, and some who won't, so that makes one either leave/take over, or stay and manage things harmoniously. We essentially know what has to be done and one will know what has to be done by a certain age given certain circumstances, but never will ever be a situation where one will preach righteousness to show they are capable. Genuine people don't show off they are capable, they just end up doing it when the time comes. But knowing people and how they work, is yet another study and homework that you have to make, and not once should you stop at where the opinions of others define an aspect which does not work, is not near close to reality, and it imposes illogical self vengeance on others. Should you encounter self vengeance imposed on others, avoid it all costs as they are creatures which live to change life into what they see fit for their own personal gain and threaten the lives of many others. 

If by any chance you find yourself facing individuals in your family which thoroughly go by only what they want to hear and see and also impose it on others or seek advantages then they are disrupting the harmony of the family. Same goes with the gossip, as it is not a normal thing in a happy family, it is as it is in the natural life of a teenager, where others gossip to feel important and more righteous then the ones they are gossiping about. And in no way to stay or think that it is healthy to have a positive attitude towards an abusive parent which abuses its power to impose their own things on their child, teen or whatever the stage of evolution that human being finds itself in.  Mental abuse is yet another cause of very stubborn and yet greedy and delusional grown kids which reached the age of 30 or more or even in teen years can be identified, that is a worldwide mental health problem. 

If you find yourself to be the mature one, as a kid, do not be afraid to take the wheel of the family if necessary or make another one by yourself, but such cases still are very rare and given the right care for these types of scenarios, might result in such rare situations to never happen if the harmony in the family is kept. Now remember the most important thing of all: preventing a situation from happening comes from long term actions, and if you seek short term resolve for a long term problem, you get a short term resolve for that situation that will inevitably happen again. And since we still talk about family, and since families have ancestors, we should remember to always check the way other ancestors dealt with things so that we may learn from their mistakes and seek a better resolve, no matter how cruel they were. Through enough research and enough care, you will end up knowing where the issue is, and solving long term problems with long term resolve, results in a full situation going downhill. 

When it comes to overprotective families, know that such is also an imbalance. Through too much protection there will be no learning curve, and through no learning curve, no logic will apply unless genetics have a way to trigger such thing. Never however misunderstand a protective attitude which is out of care with the one that is overprotective and very harmful. Overprotection is defined as someone who prevents a person from doing anything without them being directly involved. Protection out of care is one where you get an advice that is very useful about a certain situation and the rest you handle yourself up upon you have a problem with it. When such a time comes, the parent should be able to provide with the necessary information and help with the problem at hand so that the child/teen/whatever, will know how to handle it by itself. 

When growing up it is necessary to understand that asking for help is not a shame, but acquiring the skill to do a certain task is also relevant to the desire of learning that particular skill. Thus one cannot grow by having all the tricks on how the skill works as it will not appreciate it if it learns it, and thus it no longer provides with happiness. Give one enough help to know how to make it by itself and with a bit of creative touch, even a common skill can be improved by passion. 

A family must grow always with a sense of responsibility, not of selfish intent or a delusional selfless desire, and if one is not to have the quality of being responsible, then it is to be stripped of power up until it learns how to by going through experiences alone. If the individual will ever pass through all the trials of life alone, it will discover people along the way that make him appreciate them and genuine connections later on, and will inevitably end up being responsible for its own sake. However if such trials take the heart and make such person go by its own animalic impulse, then affection is to be given and a thorough explanation has to be done. Re-establishing the connection might be harder however but nonetheless possible. Then the same procedures as before are to be applied following the harmonious way and with a sensible sense of understanding of the situation.