Writer's note:

Sorry for not updating for about a month now. College had already started for me and I spent most of my time adapting to dorm life, college works and social life. You guys would read about the summary of my first few weeks in college and what I learned from it so far in just one second.

I'd try updating every week!

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If one person comes up to me and asks me what is one thing I would advice in coming high school students to do during their college years, I am sure my answer would always be to know your priorities. That is the most important thing anyone should think about in college.

Why? Because it is tremendously easy to get carried away with all the free time you suddenly have in your hands. College will throw various things at you including your social life, clubs, events you want to go to, internships, undergraduate research, part-time job, maintaining your physical health, college reading home works, home works, showing up to tutoring (if you want to), mid term, finals, and the list goes on.

I cam to college with the mindset of challenging my comfort zone so I tried to do everything social related. I talked to people, I organized hang outs, joined clubs, formulated plans about when to hang out, reached out to people in a way I would never have imagined doing before, maintain friendships with old friends, I also wanted to join a sorority, get a part time job and do well with my studies on top of all that.

But yeah, that would never happen. I happen to also love my 7-8 hours of sleep so even lesser time to do everything I want to do. I had to get sick this week before finally realizing I was spreading myself too thin. You know that feeling when you think you have all the time in the world so you keep on making commitments but realize after how short 24 hours is? That happened to me countless times. Not only that, but I felt worse when I look at instagram or snapchat and see friends out and about having fun while I am at home relaxing. I felt like I was not doing more, that I wasn't forming relationships fast enough. But that thought is a bit stupid thinking about it now because, well, it hasn't been a full month since I was at the school! Of course friendships will not form the way I want to yet, of course there is no sense of 'family' for me yet.

Now, I know, it might be different for others. I have heard friends say that they felt like they have found their 'squad' through their dorm mates or other friends. They may have been faster at getting comfortable with a group of friends than I did, but I really prefer taking things slow, whether be it friendships or relationships. I am fiercely independent and I don't believe in having a single group. I prefer being a part of many because I get to learn different things in different groups. I also prefer befriendng people from the same club that I liked because that would assure me we think alike in some ways.