I told my mom, when I was like 20yrs old, that I've always felt I'm more male than female. I asked her if she'd noticed signs of that when I was a kid, but she told me I didn't really seem any more male than I seemed female to her. She told me I was raised to be a good person, encouraged to be happy, be brave and play fair. She told me her and dad wanted to raise me into a person who could love whom ever they wanted and be loved just the same. I wasn't raised with the idea of certain colors or toys or thought patterns etc being more male or female, and that everything would be great if I was happy. Of course they hadn't thought of teaching me about the spectrum of sexuality or gender identity, that's something I learned by myself and at first felt like it wasn't something I was supposed to go through. Finding who I was by googling it when others seemed to have been born with the secure knowledge of understanding exactly who they were. That's not the case. We all have to search for ourselves in different ways. We have to take that as an adventure - not knowing everything is not a threat to who we are. Some of us end up searching ourselves through gender identity and sexuality and that is a beautiful journey that will end with us feeling cozy and comfortable with who we are. And I think going through with that journey with all it's ups and downs is what will make us even stronger, even more confident, having even more faith in ourselves and our decisions. We need to choose to be happy.