Thus for our next lesson we have to talk about the difference between selfish and selfless, the ego and the self, the wants and the needs, yada-yada...you get it.
Remember I said something about a certain balance? So is the balance between selfish and selfless, which will guide you through your journey perfectly. Being selfish means wanting and getting something without regard of the one next to you, without even thinking of sharing peacefully. The best example being a moment in which someone would attempt to sit down but you rush and take it instead. The place is now owned by you instead of the other person who was safely taking their time, while the opportunistic approach was the opposite of a good intended action.
Now here's a conundrum, while fighting for survival is in our instinct, fighting for something that triggers our survival instinct in an environment which is clearly safe, is not only rude but it also shows a problem. Maybe the one is subject to an ideology? Maybe it is having issues at home or it feels constantly in danger? We can only assume, but assumptions don't make for solid truths, it makes for unsure misunderstood outcomes. The conundrum being the fact that in case there's someone with leg pain after sitting on their feet for so long and someone just joining in that sat on their feet for hours in the station, who would be more eligible of getting the seat?

Which one is selfish and which one is selfless? Well in such a case it doesn't even matter, the fact that we would add such grand questions about a seat tells both you and me that I'm only flexing the questions around like an idiot. It's just a seat, chances are the one that gets in the bus will never have a chance to touch it in the first place as another one had their eyes and went to it right after the passanger got up to leave the bus. When it comes to trivial things like this, the rules are already changed into a matter of ''who was there first'' because the one who was closer and had the best opportunity to get it as the other one was unable to get to it nor see it, nor even reach it, was the natural owner of the seat by simple natural selection. Just like when someone got a good job before you, you couldn't know the person nor how they are, haven't seen them at the interview nor do you know what kind of life do they own, but they got it, and you haven't, so here's the question, who's more selfish? The one who complains about one's working place that was owned by a certain standard that they happened to satisfy? Or the one who complained that someone else got their work place...THEIR workplace....(just as a hint, wink wink).

As the situation is similar to the seat, nobody can come and say it was their seat when you already got it, they could only ask politely to sit there and if denied, should try to ask someone else. But the selfish and selfless see each-other face to face here. Someone who rightfully got their workplace no matter how upside down the system of selection was, has nothing to do with the other person. 
The difference between someone selfish and someone selfless is that the selfless person knows how much it needs to live peacefully and gives the extra amount to another person that crosses their path, while the selfish person hoards as much as possible and doesn't share nor does it care about others. 

Now the wants and needs pose a similar misunderstanding, sometimes what we want is not exactly what we need. For example we want to be happy. But what does it mean to be happy? It means being content and what do we need to be content? To fulfill our needs. What are our needs? That's your homework. What you need is not a simple statement of ''I need this because-'', it is a deep craving for something we're afraid to say we lack. Some people feel alone and wish for company but are afraid of rejection, so their need is love, but they compensate it with something else. Get it? It's like going to the doctor, you don't want to end up there, but you NEED to get cured. The same process happens when you're starting to be aware of what you lack. You're afraid to admit it because you feel weak, and you hate that feeling because you are conditioned to, you don't even understand how fear works to get out of it. Let me explain it to you: 

When you're afraid you don't want to act but you have to since it's just another person's dominant influence on you that restricts your freedom of living. Literally the one thing you have to do when you're afraid is to realize your fear is put there by someone else to stop you. When you keep moving it's no longer fear, it's courage. 
Now weakness has multiple meanings depending on the situation, it can be mental weakness, aka the inability to think, physical weakness, aka the inability to move, emotional weakness aka the inability to change the way of how you feel in a certain moment. All of which have different ways to solve themselves and have even more ramifications of situations.

Usually the most common met weakness that people complain about is the emotional one and the physical one, aka one's too scared and the other one too insecure. Yet again our own error is shown through our inability to understand these things properly and fix it. I have to break the ice and tell you that the only way to fully and wholeheartedly change the way you are is to suffer or give yourself to study curiously and independently, using impartial mindset to test things out. It's one road or the other, none of which is easy, and that is one of the things nobody will ever be able to sell because I could tell you how chocolate is made, but you will never understand why do I make chocolate if you like something else or eat mostly sour food. You need to have the things aligned with me and that's why mostly misery loves company. That's why when we listen to songs, we want songs that relate to us, because we feel understood in our ''struggle'' but no suffering is true if it does not teach you how to be human. Quite the contrary when someone starts doing bad while at it, as it's the easy way out the start harming just to get out of the situation, it's only a normal animalic response. If it does not develop a healthy logic, even that suffering itself can be as bad as harming yourself in any other way, because it is not only useless but it proves how inefficient it is. I mean take it like this: if you suffer for the sake of it, you only learn that the advice is inefficient, aka you do it out of pride to prove someone wrong, while suffering to go through experiences to learn from them teaches you how to be humble, and how to understand it's not all about you. The marketing guys kiss your ass to make you buy their product, nobody thinks the customer is always right since the customer is always a little bitch that complains about anything and everything. It doesn't matter how much or how bad the product is if it makes it to the massess for a purpose which fulfills specific needs, no matter how unhealthy they are. If it makes the money, it is good to go and if anyone ever thought why only certain products make it far, it's because we live that unhealthy and we don't want to admit it because it's a comfortable and content lifestyle. It's for us and it makes us feel actually loved while it is an artificial feeling of love that it's only in our minds because we don't really want to do anything to be loved, we want it to just happen like in the fairytails.

All in all what did we learn in all this lecture? That we are our own worst enemies. It is a specific someone for anything but that specific someone grew up to be that way because we have allowed it to happen collectively. There's nothing worst than having people around and feeling like we're alone in the universe, ironically, how we currently think of our planet in space. Our inability to recognize the right from wrong, the selfish from selfless and thriving on luxury has disconnected us from ourselves completely, choosing to rather live a fantasy than a reality, meaning that at the end of the day, no matter how was our life, we really had the most meaningless life there could be on this earth. 

After all how could life have a meaning if we don't strive to live it for the purpose of simply living rather than choosing a grand more superior illusion that gives us power, when we could settle for nothing more than common understanding, development and prosperity. We live from day to day trying to become better while acting like the worst and expecting someone who has the guts but not the intelligence to change everything only so that we can complain some more. That is not a way to live. We don't even know who we are, we just assume grand questions like ''what am I'' or ''who am I'' just to feel that feeling of importance. We know already what we are, we're animals and we already know who we are, we're what others made of us, because we're afraid to be judged, we jump to conclusions, we gather people to harm others, and we expect to be loved for it. That ain't going to happen. Because the law of balance says that force answers force, and only someone impartial will ever solve the conflict, if it is allowed to live. Most of us live to please others to live thinking they are doing the right thing, our own mind doing our bidding as it bends in any way just so it can please us, or logically speaking, allow us to survive by being flexible enough for us to choose other ways to be able to survive properly too.

At the end of the day, if you want water and your neighbor wants food, how would you solve such a conflict of interest? We all know the winning answer ''just share, we're all human, blabla'', but think of it like this: if you're thirsty and the other is hungry, you're the meal for the day, how do you solve this conflict of interest knowing that you're about to die and get no points of ''good person'' for sharing your water? You defend yourself right? But who allowed you to fight that other person to not become the meal?  The other person is protecting its own right to live as much as you do, and so we see the problem in question.
How can you be yourself if the other can just come in and impose its own right of living on yours and denies all sharing? You have to agree. Regardless if you want it or not, no matter what you want, what you wish, what your dreams are, you're tied to that system and the only way to solve the issue is to have both parties understand before that situation comes real, that each is a separate individual, and not everything can be shared. In terms of survival, everyone has their own plate to fill, and they have to be able to fill it somehow knowing that if there isn't any genuine help, they have to do some dirty work to get back up on their feet and change everything into better.

That is our day to day life, we fight over our right to live so we can live, then join groups so we're not feeling left out. We want fair compensation for the effort and trouble in an unfair environment that gives certain advantages to someone and if you don't like it, just swallow it, but if they step on your last line, you are still the problem for defending yourself. I don't know if you start to see the big picture, but you are the way you are because of the environment around you, the way you're treated, the way you're judged to be, the way you hide from others and the way you deal with others. It's one of the mysteries we try to solve, knowing that you're born with certain traits coming from your family, your whole existence is set to be like another stage of a similar game every being plays. All you have to do during your life to change yourself into better, and by better I mean literally into someone that doesn't need to follow a trend to be accepted, is to fix that which you have already implemented, dare to question and see for yourself how life is. Now I could write a million chapters about each situation, how to handle every tiny thing, but the balance would fall on my head, and that means I would do good but the effort would ultimately mean nothing as there will be still few that will understand anyway. 
You got to do the work of analysis, experiencing and living knowing that every step of the way, you have to use your head, no matter what's the case, no matter where you go. While it is a choice, it is just like when you're given the opportunity to steal without repercussion but choosing not to do it. There is a choice to think or not to think, yet the only way to live is to think, and to think means to understand the reality you're in and keep in mind the logic while memorizing the outcomes to know how to prevent or fix them in the future.