Sounds...healthy? Right? If you thought this through we both know it's not only true but it also spreads a kind of contaminating radiation that no suit will protect you from, as the more people will have that, the more a new form of society will build. All of that, due to the thing we praise: love. 

But how do we fix this? By being happy. How do we get happy? By living life. How do we live life? By staying in balance, knowing how to live simply and humbly, managing our needs and wants, as easy as that. As stated before, we shall use our already established wisdom to match the enigma in you as easy as a click. Because you see, if you would know that for the perfect mate, there should be honesty, modesty, commodity, intelligence (logic+memory and under no any circumstance just logic or just memory), understanding (the ability to judge from an impartial perspective and decide through logic and memory, not emotions) and a sense of self...you'd not go by comfort standards but rather for things that make someone, anyone really, feel fulfilled psychologically. With honesty there won't be lies in a good relationship, with the modesty there won't be hidden issues that won't be solved by both people involved in the relationship, with commodity you feel comfortable around your partner to be in any way possible and have fun too, with intelligence you possess the means to singlehandedly deal with problems and forge an understanding, with the understanding you can get over the little mistakes and where both of you stand, and with the sense of self you will stay there knowing that you're not bound to a person if things go horrible, it will give you the strength to know when the situation is getting worse or better.

Usually when something starts to crumble you see a lack of communication first, then lies, no more understanding, then comes the fights, commodity turns into fear and you end up under abuse. This applies to EVERYONE and the best way to prevent it is to keep a sense of self and possess the intelligence to know when too much is too much or when the things turn sour, and I just told you the triggers, you just have to use them. 

While some will be objectifying themselves for such a simple thing as love, others will try to fake it till they make it through all sorts of mischevious tactics like flirting, using pickup lines and demanding the whole world from height to dick size. 

Here it starts to be bumpy, as you can see the terrain starts to be a little more familiar, and the way it is, rarely works properly, and is rather constructed by some older much less developed civilization that thought a fake attitude will always give you what you want since we didn't have the means to understand each-other before. Nor the courage.  So when does one starts to act more like an object and less like a human being? Well object is far stretched as it may be misunderstood, a person acting like an object will always change itself, from looks to way of clothing to appeal to preference of others under the pretext of ''looking good'' and sometimes, with enough pride, they might enforce this standard on others too. 

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Sorry for the ads, looks like marketing got a little honest. But back to our sheep and squirrels, the ad above was about what some are selling and what others are buying. Objectification, one side knows that it is bad to be that way, and the other desperate and frustrated will have its needs fulfilled and that degrading enforced passively by products or preferences from others with more money in their pockets and quite enough comfort. Some do it to prove others how bad they are, while others do it to vent their own suffering on others. If you ever doubted yourself about something that makes you not qualify for a relationship, the only qualification you need is what I mentioned above and an equal amount of people with the same mindset directly proportionate with the population of our planet. The finding of love is hard and long but not giving up for your desires and instead taking a more intelligent approach will not only save your life in the long run, but also make up for that exact lack of ''love'' as in more ways than one, your own nature will push you towards the people who will resonate with you.

It is how it is. For now it's hard, maybe in the future it will be better, but I don't expect any awakening in this current generation, maybe in 3 from now, some few hundreds of years in the future.

Objectification comes with too much comfort and too less understanding essentially, when one can do whatever they want, there are certain rules but not too well established, and is tickled on the ego every day that they have the final say in anything. Some people hop on their high horse and demand some sort of creature 10 meters tall, very rich and handsome, preferably toxic and very manipulative, usually found in urban areas of the civilization, has a bunch of friends that are expert ass kissers and a pride the size of the greatest sun in the galaxy. Some hop on their high squirrel and demand some sort of other creatures with tons of plastic surgery, a history of self esteem issues that they won't fix, preferably very manipulative and pitiful that will be like a pufferfish with others that haven't given up hope yet.

To fix these issues we must understand that being impulsive is our worst trait that we have to somehow manage through self control. Some are born that way and getting genes like that can be quite a tough ride but it is no justification as we have to take care of each-other in the end and to do that, we must realize that our ways of life not only suck but make life suck for others too. And to take care of each-other we must learn that nobody was put on Earth for us specifically, we must meet others that can accept us to have a true friendship the least and learn how to live and how to love ourselves not with an overwhelming emotion, but with a logical awareness that we are not out of the ordinary, we just want to live, and that's that. Not to live by desires, nor by fake attitudes. Which means that true love to be found for you, means that you have to work on yourself, and you shall settle for no less nor more than that. You however possess the freedom to not do so and stay the way you are now, as comfortably as possible and the life you live will never be a true life, but rather a passive death which turns into a physical one. As you will never be lesser than an animal, as you are the animal, nor greater than the fictional divinities we had along the centuries, as they are the depiction of human mind projected on a mass scale based on the lack of hope for the better, a sense in life which we never figured out, and a feeling of self importance which comes out of the need to be appreciated for whatever we are doing. And what we did until now honestly does not deserve any recognition, barely has the capacity to deserve appreciation and cannot hold a candle to those who tried making things into better but died trying.

Next we have to talk about why the dates and all the other ''tricks and tips'' as if we're achievements have made us ignore the fact that the person next to us is a human being and the lack of empathy shows that, alongside with the intelligence to know who and what exactly deserves empathy. You've got to work for yourself, for love and you will forever work for everything you want, it is the way of nature because progress cannot be achieved by idle cows chewing on grass peacefully on the most beautiful plains that can exist. It is why through working with statistics we figured out stuff about ourselves, through observation we figured out even more and through understanding we reached the stars asking if we are alone or why our pipes break when it's too cold. But you cannot call it a work, if you're passionate so the perspective is really yours. A happy normal life is one you're passionate to live because you can live it, not because it provides you more than you need. So let's deal with those tips and tricks and hook up a hooker for you.

Dating is essentially trying to get someone as fast as possible by being the best version of yourself regardless of how you feel like, who you really are and objectifying yourself for another person without an internal connection, just a mere pleasing of needs. If the others don't fit what you want, they are not elligible for such a thing, and I'd recommend to all the peeps that want to feel true love not to go for dating, but to look among their own friends or someone with which they found understanding. With dating the opportunity hits the door sometimes as if you are what the other is searching for and then suddenly change, you can still mate using protection and then pride yourself and hype up your relative importance based on the partner count. Nothing was as pitiful as that, and then the degradation of one's importance follows right after, since it hits like a double edged sword. Like: sure, do it with as many as you wish, thinking that it is without consequence, while naturally speaking the consequence is that you lose value. But do not despair as this also cuts both ways, you see, while people doing it out of desire is horribly bad, people who are employed in the service of others that are lonely and have a harder time finding a true love, have a balanced outcome since they help. With a system that allows for growth of human life and intelligence, such cases as ''lonely'' will not exist anymore and thus everyone will meet a happy ever after. But compromise has to be done on behalf of others. The question is, will they compromise? If yes, all good, but if they don't that is against the balance and something has to be done without aiding their own desire in the end. It is just how the nature's laws works. 

But what happens to those who have it happy by being conditioned to be happy in another type of system artifically made by humans? Well it stays the same as it stays during doctrine, you're still not living, and you're also continuing the wave instead of closing it. Naturally speaking, it is still bad. And to know the way of nature compared to the way of human interaction is easy, the natural way is always one that has emphasis on growth on individual scale, while the human way is growth on their own constructs and strategies. That we can learn for looking at the countless conflicts we had in history and how we did what we did for money and to repell other dangerous ideas of artificial superiority that led to mass conflicts which to this day we try to romanticize as much as cheaters romanticize their cheating experience that is based on desire alone and with an obvious mischevious attitude. 

Talking about cheating, some of us have the problem of feeling guilty for being cheated on, or if someone we like doesn't like us back. We're very inclined to think that likes and dislikes give us importance in a way, not only that but also the way we think others should like us back when we like them will cause all sorts of other problems like victimization and unrequired jealousies. The acceptance of rejection comes with the understanding of the reality of the situation, and the reality of the situation might be different, some are too afraid to go off their parent's hooks, they are treated miserably without knowing by them, or they have the comfort to ask for preferences. Sometimes one's own culture applies such horrible rules. Nonetheless you cannot put the blame on them for that, you can only lecture them the least, but not with ill intent. In the end you search for true love, and you shouldn't be bothered that nature has a failure of understanding as possibility, thus if they failed to understand, they will one day, or suffer without anyone doing anything to them but themselves having chosen some situations which have huge backlash and eventually, depending on their character, wake up to reality or turn to their impulses more and will further blame everyone and everything and teach their children also to be one of them too. 

You see how everything just links now? It is a passive, natural force that occurs in both situations, the more people act in a certain way, the more a passive force will enable such thing to become once again fake since there will be mistakes that will not give up their selfishness for others, if all wisdom of it is forgotten. You can never discard the explanation, no matter how old, no matter how ancient. It is there to tell the truth and logic so that others may understand and impartially, based on the laws of nature and without any human impulse, decide if it is true or not. And in the end if you want to love yourself, you needn't turn narcissistic and selfish, all you have to understand is how to live, how to be impartial and live knowing that your perspective makes you who you are. If you can keep yourself in check and you're brave enough to know when you're not ready, wrong or are afraid of taking the first step, you're already showing yourself all the love you need for passive, free, self growth and finding love in the long run.