I don't know how it is in other parts of the world, but in America people want you to have kids. It's an expectation that is established when we are very young.

As children, our parents tell us that one day we'll grow up and get married and have kids of our own. The picture is painted for us as an idyllic fantasy throughout grade school up through senior high. When we enter college, however, the clock starts ticking.

People start asking, "When are you gonna start dating someone so you can get married and have kids?" Then you start dating someone and they say, "When are you gonna get married so you can have kids?" Then you get married and they say, "When are you gonna have kids?" Then you have a kid and they say, "When are you gonna have MORE kids?"

There's no satisfying these people.

My rule of thumb is to never ask married couples when they're gonna have kids. Especially if they've been married for a while or they're in their 30s (or both). Chances are they can't have 'em or they don't want 'em. Either way, it's bound to lead to an awkward conversation so I just avoid it all together.

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Do you ever get pestered about having kids or having MORE kids? How do you handle those situations?