That is kind of the rule, and it stands like this:
you try to be the best version of yourself
choose what satisfies you
something doesn't satisfy you
ignore it/ push it away
Easy coding, right? It shows how selfish we kind of are, and the rule shows exactly how we can be our own WORST enemies. But...how? Well it stands like this:
You're part of the human race, aka yet just another animal on a planet in a vast space which we barely understand. Since you're an animal, instincts guide you, the wants and the needs and the understanding of experiences make you who you are. That is, who you are, you're an animal, one of a kind, among many with the same structure as you in a very vast planet filled with territories which we mark, defend and work on for food. You build yourself based on how the environment treats you, environment which includes the total ammount of influences you receive, coming from people, web sources, tv programs, audio,etc., you get it. Instinctively, you will go by what you require, want and need, without question, especially if you have been conditioned and lost yourself, unless there's a certain logic.
Let's set up some examples however, very common, met by almost everyone.
E.G.1: You're hungry, you have the means of acquiring food, but you don't know how to cook it.
The level of comfort dictates now what you will do. The higher the comfort, the more affordable your options are, the lesser the comfort, the harder it is to get and thus sacrifices have to be made, which test your own moral code.
E.G.2: You're hungry, you need food and you do not have the money to have it, nor do you know how to cook. A more morally inclined person will never dare steal and would probably die of hunger, while a person who realizes that the circumstance does not allow the comfort of a moral standard, gets to eat another day by stealing from others or making new ways to survive for itself.
That is called conditioning, when you cannot go out of your way even if it means the death of you, is the perfect indicator, that you have been conditioned, either by those around you, or because of your pride.
But this conditioning is also ambiguous in its own nature, as: a person can have the comfort to be moral, but it can be just for the sake of looking good socially, while the other person can have the discomfort of being free and survive which is more optimal, and the problem is cut into even more sides. The first moral one can lead to lies and ultimately towards the downfall of good people by those who survive by taking out everyone who disaggrees with them, as survival is most optimal, but at what cost if only a few survive?
After all no one wants to carry a sword around if they feel safe, and the truth is we're afraid of each-other, some less, some more than that, you're terrified by the more open and unpredictable people of this life for a good reason: they do harm.
Yet to put it shortly, there's more than just the environment that made you the way you are and the turn around to a better way is always harder because of years wasted doing horrible things without being aware of them. Anyone can be a killer by just breathing and helping something carry on, no matter how hard they preech for righteousness, with no action taken. Which leads us to your first lesson about yourself: Action.
Actions have consequences. It is a natural imperative condition you own since birth. Certain actions trigger certain consequences depending on the level of development of others. You'd like to think the interesting naratives of a certain philosopher who in his might put the darkness just by his own divine presence, but in real life, everything you do matters in a certain way for certain people which are the total of well intended individuals that roam the planet at this time from any and possibly all backgrounds. And we want those individuals to be as plenty as possible, otherwise we'd end up in another war, and the main function of our actions is not only to assure a future for ourselves, but to pass it too to our offspring in the future. We're in a pretty bad place, we'd not want kids to be born in such a place, but if we failed to act, we have ultimately failed ourselves. We know more about harming each-other than fixing our things because we're more driven by our emotions and desires and when desires get into conflict, the bigger, more stronger ''me'' gets the meal at the end of the day. Funny how sometimes, we're like roosters.
Which leads us to your next lesson of today: the side taking. We're very perceptible to gaining favor or feeling we're doing something good when hearing something outrageous about someone else. Just the fact of ''it's not me so it's all good'' is toxic enough as it is. Even the quote ''the enemy of my enemy is my friend'' was born out of the side taking procedure. When two fight but don't like someone, they become oddly united against a common ground which they have to fight on afterwards anyways, or even worse, one can backstab the other and take it all. As you can see, even side-taking is a matter of survival, belonging to a group is more valuable to us than truly caring about the life of someone else. It just simply makes us empowered and so we already know what's going to be the next lesson. Belonging to some place makes us feel assured that we're not alone and we're yet again stripped of our own self to comply with a thing someone more dominant than ourselves will impose. Regardless if you like it or not, as long as you have ever bowed to something or held yourself for something that has more power over you and those around you, making you behave in a way which makes you restrain your personal opinions derived out of curiosity rather than imposing a certain aspect, I want to make you know, that you are not yourself, but at least you're trying to if you took up this book, which is a good sign.
As a human being, being stripped of curiosity is the worst thing you can ever do. Not being allowed to ask questions can lead to misunderstandings which lead to empty assumptions that can destroy someone's life. Don't be just food for nature, be a human being, know that before you do something, you act in any way, think first, understand it and never be afraid of dark answers. It's life and it's not made of only good vibes. Maturing up also comes with the acceptance of both dark and bright scenarios, and with the experience to handle all of them. By no way ever praise the light or dark aspects of life, there is a balance in this life and should one upset it, they become a passive killer. Understand, that there are things which are dark because they need to be fixed and there are things that are good because without one, there isn't the other. One provides, another takes. Easy as that, don't take too much as you will be hunted to provide, nor provide too much as you'd be the only one doing all the work for nothing. Same happens with wisdom. Don't say too much, people still have to do their homework, words alone can explain, but not everyone listens, and when they face danger, that's when they come back and understand that as boring as some things can be, and how they don't tickle their sensors or satisfy their desires, it is imperatively, what they need at that time, to survive.
Choose information by being perceptive to all its sides, then out of all of them, filter in the one that fits with reality more, and even then when things don't look too real, put it to question again and again until you're done disecting. Take your time in understanding, if you don't do it in the first run, then the second, if neither is the second run successful, go for a third, but always different angles. However a warning, should you ever think you're superior while knowing a lot of things or in any other way, tone it down, and remember the balance. Pride is very well understood to be one of the leading causes for death out of hate, it pushes one to not look at the faults of close ones or itself, and as the history book says too, it never did any good.
On to the next lesson: empowerment. In the search for power, many get it and use it wrongly, and we know not only from the holy books, but from history as well and great philosophers said as well, and maybe it is time we listen to all of them and agree that power only reveals how someone really is on the inside, and the only person to handle power is the one who is content with life, is humble, knows self control and can live as simple as possible. Often easily fooled, these honest breed make the world a better place with their innocence alone.
But we want power and control because we lack the power to control ourselves, and we find it in others. A succesful plot or conversion is more satisfying as the others become vasals to us, and our dopamine satisfies our need for such needs. While the answer is simple: expose yourself to your most adored desire and suffer until you run desperate enough to understand it from a different perspective, up until you understand you don't need it and the only happiness one gets from it, is artificial, and not one bit for the long run.
So you see, the answer is simple, but who will ever have the courage to face their worst to become their best? When some will do it just to be labeled as best while they are not, and others do it for image while being hypocritical of their own belief. Hope makes it that there will be at least some who truly want to be cured and the only cure comes from within because it is through understanding that one shapes itself in different ways.
Get it? You're important. Like it or not, but not as important as for people to worship. Many of our ways that we apply to life make us think we're good, we fight for something instead of understanding it and acting to fix it. Which shows us how little we know about ourselves. Yet one thing even you have to consider is that we haven't solved our issues because dealing with people is the worst job to have. I mean, come on, not only they cling to envy but also to pride and that makes for a very ugly combo. Experience so far has told us that these things that form the combo have to be erased, so be happy, we're doing just that by the end of this book. See you on chapter 2.